WHAT'S LOVE GOT TO DO WITH IT?
Now I dont mean to come across as someone who doesnt beleive in love; on the contary I do but as I said in my profile I tend to have cynical views usually when it involves this topic. It might be something to do with the fact that this word/emotion has been trivialised so much in recent times, especially by the media and in the fickle world of celebrity.
Granted everyone has a different view/definition on what love really means, from that "butterflies in my stomach feeling" to " I cant live without him/her" to the biblical definition as given in the book of Corinthians. But the bottom line is ... how do you know if you are truly in love with someone and can your feelings really be genuine even if you've only known them for a short period of time?
I'll give an example; I was watching one of these reality TV shows last week ( out of pure boredom, I might add) about old high school friends who were re-united years after graduating. One of the girls used to date one of the guys back in high school, but they hadnt seen each other since then and she was currently in another relationship. But upon meeting each other again after all these years and only spending a couple of weeks together, she realised that she might be in "love" with him and broke up with her fiance. One of the other guys also got together with one of the girls on the show and after the show ended, they moved in together and in no time, he had proposed to her. The whole time I was watching this I was screaming at my t.v. "BUT YOU HARDLY KNOW THIS WOMAN/GUY! " The fact that they went to school together or knew each other from way back does not necessarily count. What I'm trying to say is I dont beleive you can really love someone (in the true sense of the word) that you dont know. I dont beleive there is such a thing as "love at first sight" ; one can fall in lust/attraction at first sight and easily mistake that for love (been there, done that).
And another thing that irks me is when people use the "l" word so freely, especially so early on in a relationship. I'm the sort of person who beleives that actions speak louder than words and if I truly cared about someone, would make my feelings known by the things I do for them as opposed to blurting them out. But then again, everyone is different and some people are more emotionally vocal than others so I'm not saying everyone should be like me. I guess what I'm trying to say after rambling on is ...be sure about your true feelings before making them known lest you end up making a fool of yourself. (and no, I'm not speaking from personal experience here before you all start to wonder).
That said, what do you think? Do you beleive in love at first sight?
posted by Beautifully Human @ 2:42 PM
3 Comments:
i guess there's a case somewhere for love at first sight. but marriage at first sight? sounds to me like a person happily walking into a minefield while bouncing a huge basketball around.
All i can say is, love is inexplicable. it's like trying to explain what 'life' is, or why God put us here. For some it may take a few seconds to realise you love someone..for others it may take years!Who's to decide that there's a certain point in time where realisation hits?
What people seem to forget is that it's equally easy to fall out of love as it is to fall into it...so at the end of the day, what does it all constitute to?
My advice to all those out there:
Enjoy it..you will know when it hits you..it's just like following your gut instincts..you can't explain what it is..but it definately has a presence.
As for marriage?Well, that's a whole different ball-game. One i find which people of our generation (unfortunately) take completely for granted these days and have succeeded in 'rubbishing' so to speak.
Now marriage at first sight?Well...that's just dumb!
Yeah for some, love at first sight does exist and they did experience those first magical moment when they set eyes on each other.
For me, it wasnt love at first sight. My own lovehas always come gradually. Maybe because I have always set my eyes on higher ground (smile) and have to learn to love the ones that actually motice me and profess their love. (smile) Now I can say I love my man intoto. No it wasnt love at first sight and if anyone had told me I would eventually fall in love with him, I would have stoimed the person with the biggest pebble I could lay my hands on at that time! (smile)
I once read a book about love that said: "Dont marry the man you love but love the man you marry." From experience I can say to all out there, thats the best love of all!!!!
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