Wednesday, August 30, 2006


Now I dont mean to come across as someone who doesnt beleive in love; on the contary I do but as I said in my profile I tend to have cynical views usually when it involves this topic. It might be something to do with the fact that this word/emotion has been trivialised so much in recent times, especially by the media and in the fickle world of celebrity.

Granted everyone has a different view/definition on what love really means, from that "butterflies in my stomach feeling" to " I cant live without him/her" to the biblical definition as given in the book of Corinthians. But the bottom line is ... how do you know if you are truly in love with someone and can your feelings really be genuine even if you've only known them for a short period of time?

I'll give an example; I was watching one of these reality TV shows last week ( out of pure boredom, I might add) about old high school friends who were re-united years after graduating. One of the girls used to date one of the guys back in high school, but they hadnt seen each other since then and she was currently in another relationship. But upon meeting each other again after all these years and only spending a couple of weeks together, she realised that she might be in "love" with him and broke up with her fiance. One of the other guys also got together with one of the girls on the show and after the show ended, they moved in together and in no time, he had proposed to her. The whole time I was watching this I was screaming at my t.v. "BUT YOU HARDLY KNOW THIS WOMAN/GUY! " The fact that they went to school together or knew each other from way back does not necessarily count. What I'm trying to say is I dont beleive you can really love someone (in the true sense of the word) that you dont know. I dont beleive there is such a thing as "love at first sight" ; one can fall in lust/attraction at first sight and easily mistake that for love (been there, done that).

And another thing that irks me is when people use the "l" word so freely, especially so early on in a relationship. I'm the sort of person who beleives that actions speak louder than words and if I truly cared about someone, would make my feelings known by the things I do for them as opposed to blurting them out. But then again, everyone is different and some people are more emotionally vocal than others so I'm not saying everyone should be like me. I guess what I'm trying to say after rambling on is sure about your true feelings before making them known lest you end up making a fool of yourself. (and no, I'm not speaking from personal experience here before you all start to wonder).

That said, what do you think? Do you beleive in love at first sight?